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lol I was just listening to that podcast and wondering if you’d understood what he was doing. I think he feared you thought he was doing something else and thought “freak” lol. Hopefully next time you two can connect. Oh … welcome to the tribe!

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If you have a kid…you know!

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❤️❤️❤️❤️

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Fellow veteran here. I volunteer in several veterans help groups online. If any of you are interested I talk about it on my page here on freesteading. Sometimes our brothers and sisters need a hand up as they face the hills in front of them. I try to be that hand and if you’re inclined to do that too just check out my page. No financial crap or anything just simple direct assistance from the pantry or a hammer.

Also if you ever find yourself in a bind then please reach out to me. I work with several other veterans who volunteer and we’ll search out resources through government or non-profits and work to link you up with them. Don’t let yourself go down a dark hole alone because you’re not in it alone and if you ever need an ear, a shoulder or a soundboard I’m here for you!!! Thank you for being part of my mixed up, jumbled up, jerked around veteran family! Much love from an army wrench rat!

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Wanted to double down on that. It’s sound advice that I too appreciate as well as the effort it takes on y’alls part.

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Part of my reasoning for encouraging Krista (aka wifey) to learn was not just because it took weight off of my shoulders but from facing a period of inexperience myself. From the time I was 13 on I spent various times on my own and cared for myself. Before entering the military I had my own place for two years and kept everything immaculate. I thought I was prepared for anything. Next thing you know I’m a dad. Then the relationship went south, she neglected our daughter and I wound up with custody of a six month old girl. As a guy I was ill prepared, as a first time parent I was overly doting and as a single parent I was initially very overwhelmed. It seemed every time I needed help and asked a female I was talked down to as if I should know the answer or solution already. I despised being treated as ignorant simply because I was a guy. Many of my initial struggles were no different than what a new mom would face. Teething, colic, rashes, yeast infection etc and like a new mom I needed advice, as a dad though I was treated as ignorant and out of my assigned role. Didn’t matter because my girl still depended on me to handle it all and she didn’t care what my gender was at the time she just wanted her gums, gut or butt to feel better.

Later on when I married wifey and she showed interest in doing “guy” things I quickly encouraged it. For one I didn’t want her to feel as I did before, for another I didn’t want any of my kids growing up thinking that gender defined responsibility or ability. In general men and women have roles to which they are naturally more suited for or abilities that say.. come more naturally. It doesn’t mean however that they should be restricted to those roles or that somethings wrong with them if they feel more comfortable or confident in non traditional roles. So encouraging my wife only made since. I’m damn I grateful I did. Now I know with or without me she can manage. A dear friend of mine passed away a year ago and his wife of 20yrs has been struggling to overcome her lack of knowledge because of everything he insisted on doing and she never learned. Sure he kept her protected from financial worries by being the only income and handling all the bills but without him she didn’t even know where to send the mortgage check.

We forget so often that we are partners in our marriage and it can bite us in the butt if we aren’t careful. There’s a certain relief you can only get if you know your partner can manage without you. It also keeps you honest and gives them a joy because they know that they are a choice to be with and not a dependency you require.

I’m quite sad to hear about your husband’s cancer. I’ve lost several I love to that horrible illness. Make sure he stays away from processed sugar because it’s cancers favorite food source. Turmeric is a known cancer fighter so I’d ad that to his diet. As for learning to do all the things you’re use to him doing go ahead and learn all that you can. Knowing and not needing is better than needing and not knowing. Also don’t stress yourself too much because you now have friends and family in this new community who are available to help you through whatever comes your way.

I have you both in my prayers. God will see y’all through this struggle. Learn from your husband and be sure he learns from you as well. More importantly love like there’s no tomorrow because with or without illness it’s never guaranteed.

Love & prayers! Your new friends….

Brian Seago & family

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Working away from the meds but still very dependent on them. I was born with a reverse curve in my neck which over time pinched my spinal column causing nerve damage. Along with deterioration in my disc’s and vertebrae, spurs etc to name a few I’m medicated to be at a “tolerable” pain level as the docs call it. I have fusions in my neck but no one wants to touch the rest of my spine. Wifey stays terrified I’ll wind up paralyzed but for me sitting around is just as bad. I started working as a kid and not working just goes against my grain. Even when sitting still I’m usually online in my veterans groups helping others find the resources they need. Sometimes the hands don’t want to work so I switch to voice to text. That’s aggravating though because my smart phone doesn’t speak southern lol.

I figure we all have a struggle of some sort we must overcome be it physical, mental, emotional or spiritual. Sometimes I wish I had a TENS unit to zap me in the right spots for the latter three lol.

I still consider myself a blessed man though. 2 of my kids grew up while I was at work and my middle one grew up halfway without me. Because I became disabled I was given the privilege of helping my middle son usher towards adulthood and watch my younger son n daughter grow. Most parents miss out such things these days so I consider myself blessed to be here now. If it means ice packs, heatpads and TENS then I can live with that. By the way… I’ve found the TENS works best when watching a youngin climb a tree or a silly dog chase a butterfly. 🥰

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😆 true

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Thanks for letting me know G. I’ll check into it … I’m always searching for more ways to help and more organizations that I can recommend.

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Thank you!!! The reason behind it….

Well here at our new place there’s things that are well thought out and things we’re finding that ain’t quite right. Plus our altogether ain’t altogether so it works lol.

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Allot of TBI’s go untreated and often misdiagnosed. It’s a very important issue since the requirements for treatments are different. I’ve seen veterans loose everything because they were told they had PTSD or personality disorders when the real issue is a TBI. Not enough people are aware of what TBI’s can lead to or how significant they can be. Sometimes our brothers and sisters of service return home and everyone says “they’ve changed”. Most Chalk it up to tragic events and PTSD. Even us veterans and the docs will say that. It’s been discovered though that a TBI can actually alter a person’s personality. It can greatly affect their thought process even in regards to how they feel about their spouse or even their own kids. I pray you’re getting the treatment you need and thank you as a brother for being willing to talk about it because not everyone is and it’s a real problem!

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Thank you, thank you, thank you. This video addressed everything I was concerned about. I guess I’ll be finding another option until or including freesteadings market once it’s up and running.

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Thank you for your input it gives me some insight to the rumors.

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I’m looking forward to a market place on freesteading and plan to make use of it however I can!

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Broken bolts can turn a one hour job into hours or days and a small fortune if something breaks internally. I’m sure you know that. I’ve used other extractors only to be disappointed. This one required allot of back and forth to move the bolt one direction to the next and it tried my patience but being patient with the tool saved me from further headaches and expenses. The tool itself worked great. It was a decade or so of rust on the bolt and my broken body that was a problem lol.