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  • Good man

    Posted by coyotech on March 11, 2023 at 11:38 pm

    I went to Walmart today to stock up on a bunch of things, and had a really full basket with 50 lbs of dog food in the bottom basket shelf. I was getting the basket unloaded, and thinking what a pain it was going to be to get that bag of dog food out of the basket and into the back of the truck, when suddenly a man came up and asked if I’d like help with that. I hadn’t even gotten down to the dog food, wasn’t even putting on a show yet, of trying to hold the basket still while I drug the bag out. He was just a nice guy in his 30s who decided to go help that old lady with the big stuff in the basket. I didn’t do my usual Ms. Independent “thanks, but I can get it” routine. No, I was delighted! I thanked him profusely and privately thanked God for strong young men with a good heart, as well.

    coyotech replied 1 year, 2 months ago 12 Members · 24 Replies
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  • OneOpas

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 12:32 am

    I’m that guy, but 51 now. I’ll offer …and it’s no skin off my nose if someone says no.

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 12:46 am

      That’s good! Those random acts of kindness have more effect on the world than you see. There was a nice commercial about that awhile back, even. I don’t know who ran it. Even when I say no, I try to let the person know that I did appreciate their offer. And I try to remember to do that kind of thing myself, seeing how good it is. I’m not up to lifting people’s heavy stuff any more, but I can climb on shelves in the grocery store to reach the top shelf, and have done that sort of thing for people. 🙃

  • Freeholder

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 12:42 am

    Once in a while, some kind gentleman offers to help me with bags of feed at the feed store (not so much lately, as I’ve learned to ask for an employee to go out with me to load bags into the back of my truck). Twenty years ago, I usually turned them down, with thanks. Now I’m in my mid-sixties, and my back is bad — I accept such offers with grateful thanks! There really ARE still some gentlemen out there! Of all ages, too — I’ve been helped by both young men, and men older than myself.

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 12:50 am

      Yes, good men come in all ages. Sometimes watching the news you might think the younger people don’t do that kind of thing any more, but not so. One time a man older than me and only a little bigger helped me carry a 5 gallon bucket of drywall mud out to my truck. We were both struggling with it, but we got it there. It’s hard to get used to being closer to 70 than 60!

  • Marty08

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 1:05 am

    I am almost 70 and I still don’t mind helping folks out with feed or anything else

  • HK-Life

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 1:10 am

    That is so nice when that happens.🙂

  • Livesoutdoors

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 3:09 am

    I had a man help me at the feed store the other day. Its so nice when people are kind to one another!

  • Redcap

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 3:32 am

    What a lot of lovely helpful people. I have to ask for help lifting a feed bag out of the cart and into my car. Back problems. When I do it myself, I end up hurting myself. It’s hard for me to ask and not do it myself. But I’m grateful there’s always a nice person or staff people around to help. Maybe it’s a lesson in gratitude and humility rather than self-reliance. 🙂

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 3:18 pm

      Funny how self-reliance, and gratitude and humility tend to be lessons that go together.

  • Woodsman

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 9:05 am

    Society thinks I‘m old? I just feel the same except for some pain. Some I always had and some That is new. With age, I do more and not less? Yet, the body doesn’t always respond well as it once had. As a man seldom is help offered and that’s okay. Because; as a man, it’s awkward to accept. Unless, it’s when working task that requires multiple people and ironically then there is no one to help ? Or worse; few that have what it takes? Still, I help others when needed. These days many people live in fear and resist help. As for 50lbs. of whatever? I tend to make those purchases in smaller portions due to keeping it fresher longer. Yes, it can cost more, but so could the end result of feed gone bad etc. if a large quantity is use quickly then I purchase the large size / amount in one whatever container. There is also quality over quantity. Meaning; for example, good nutrition cost more, but the body consumes less of it. To your story’s point; there are some of yesteryears manners in a few yet today.

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 3:15 pm

      True, getting offered help with lifting and picking things up is an advantage that women get, and rarely men. I’ve also found that men tend to ask for help with jobs easier than women do. Probably lots of reasons for that, including the training in teamwork that you get as boys and young men. Girls learn to do work on their own more, so even if a woman’s doing a “man’s” work, she’s less likely to think of that. Also, a woman doing a man’s work is liable to want to prove she can handle it and turn down offers of help. A man usually isn’t worried about that. But of course sometimes being seen as needing help can be nice.

      • Woodsman

        Member
        March 12, 2023 at 6:51 pm

        The type of work where men should have help is the kind of work that requires many men or machines. Yet, we don’t get and we come up with many new ways of doing the heavy lifting and earning a hernia. High places is an another area many seem not to want to help. Also low dirty confined spaces?

      • coyotech

        Member
        March 13, 2023 at 2:27 am

        Everybody wants to avoid those kinds of work if they possibly can. You have to pay people for that, and even then you might have trouble getting someone to do it.

      • Woodsman

        Member
        March 13, 2023 at 10:52 am

        I like to add: those hired are often ill prepared and/or unscrupulous. Hence, the birth of the handyman.

  • Thy-abundance

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 9:42 am

    Aloha

    What a blessing. I to have experienced your adulation and encouragement by his actions. In Hawaii our youth are raised to respect each other especially Kupuna (elders) and Keiki (child). One day when a young man ran to the door I was going ta go through and said “hey Aunty let me open your door” I felt I had turned a corner in age. I must be older or is it my newly sprouting grey hair? Ha ha ha! I gave that young soul his selfless moment of absolute kindness and I graciously respectfully said “mahalo ke Akua”. He smiled back at me giggling and returned toward me the same praise words. Mahalo Ke Akua means “thanks be to God”in the Hawaiian language.

    I loved how Yeshua had an appointed meeting of kindness in your day. There are so many descent people around and we should place our hopes on them. Sadly it’s easier to focus on the bad apples though. God is good 😉

    I pray He continues to show you His presence daily with more and more appointed blessing by His people everywhere ya go. His plans are always perfect

    God bless 🌺 and continue to shine His face upon you.

  • AiNt-RiTe-Acres

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 3:05 pm

    One thing I’m proud of is that my kids will fight each other for the chance to help someone. My children are spread out 10,11,18,23 and 30, so it’s almost always been a thing of my boys trying to get the high or heavy with my girls getting the low or the door. This certainly helps me now that I’m restricted in my own abilities and being disabled I know how meaningful those little gestures are. As a matter of fact I hadn’t realized how many angels God has placed in our daily lives until I became disabled. Those angels exist at food pantries, grocery aisles, parking lots and so forth.

    Scripture says we’re created in God’s image and capable of miracles through him. Most of us consider that to be in the realm of seemingly impossible feats. We fail to recognize that simple acts of kindness are a miracle within themselves and can have an impact as great as healing the blind. That’s a little tid bit I think we should all express more.

    I’m glad your day was blessed and I pray there are many more small blessings headed your way. 😊

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 3:22 pm

      May we all be angels surrounded by angels. Sounds like you raised a whole flock of angels!

      • AiNt-RiTe-Acres

        Member
        March 12, 2023 at 4:12 pm

        Well they ain’t angels at home lol.

        Honestly I’m a blessed man. They have their phases but they’re overall good kids. Even if they use my last nerve as a jump rope some days 😂

      • coyotech

        Member
        March 12, 2023 at 10:07 pm

        Ha, nobody’s an actual angel, even if they act like it some times in some ways! But that’s a real good start. Probably saves their hides now and then when they’re jump roping.

      • AiNt-RiTe-Acres

        Member
        March 13, 2023 at 1:58 am

        😂😊

  • PamelaH

    Member
    March 12, 2023 at 3:53 pm

    I was early-pregnant and trying not to lift a lot of things, but the animals had to eat. I wanted to kiss the clerk at the store when she automatically called the “boys in the back” to help me out with my purchase. I didn’t feel that I had to ask, explain or look weak. It was so helpful and appreciated. I was reminded that it never hurts to ask to help another person.

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 12, 2023 at 10:17 pm

      True, good to offer – it might be needed. And if not, the worst that will happen is they turn it down. It takes some practice to recognize when help might be helpful, actually. If you’re not used to looking for ways to help (outside the very obvious situations), you don’t see them. I think that’s good training for kids, not to mention adults who might want to just do a little better.

  • Kingscairn

    Member
    March 14, 2023 at 11:01 am

    Did you get his ph # 😆

    • coyotech

      Member
      March 14, 2023 at 3:51 pm

      LOL, no. He’s probably married, and way too young for me!

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