I really blew it…

  • I really blew it…

    Posted by Sojourner on October 31, 2022 at 2:24 pm

    GoodMorning y’all. I guess although this post is visible across the whole site, I kind of feel most comfortable sharing this with you guys here as I’ve kind of got to know you a little bit.

    Do you ever have what I call meltdowns when you are doing business with these corporations? You know the Big Box stores or pretty much any corporate entity. I’m here to confess it’s happened to me around a half dozen times already this year.πŸ˜₯

    So I’ll tell you about my last episode which just happened.

    I’m at a local grocery chain shopping with a neighbor. We are at the frozen food section and they are buying an item using their “Corporate tracking app” which gives them an additional 25% off this particular item we each are buying. They comment to me how easy it is to download and what great savings it provides. My reply was, “Hey that’s ok, I’m happy to just pay the regular sale price that’s offered to everyone.”

    That was when the wheels begin turning in my head. Why should we be charged so much more for a product if we opt out of their tracking app?

    So there stocking products next to us is a young lady. I asked her in my best casual tone, “Don’t you think it’s wrong for these corporations to punish those who don’t want their app with significantly higher prices? It seems like discrimination to me, what do you think about it?”

    O, my! That was NOT the person to ask such a question. She began to have a complete breakdown just because I asked her thoughts on something she had no authority over or anything to do with. She became increasingly upset as I tried to disengage and apologize for trying to start this conversation with her. I told her, “Hey, I realize you personally have nothing to do with these things, I was just curious as to your thoughts about it?”

    That didn’t placate her as she ran to get a manager following me to the check out line. The manager asked what my problem was?

    I apologized for trying to speak to an employee about things that did not pertain to their job description. He says, “So are you willing to apologize to the employee?”

    Yes sir, was my quick reply and looking over my shoulder there the offended person was. As I began to give her my earnest apology she really flipped out!

    She began to scream, “It’s people like you is why I was raped and beaten!”

    Well, by this time I’m almost in tears. The manager just walks away to the service counter leaving me to apologize to the other customers and employees standing around. I honestly expected the Cops to show up at any minute.

    Well we got out of the store without being arrested, thanks be to God and His infinite mercy.

    But the fact remains my seeming inability to keep my mouth shut at times like this is becoming heavier on my heart each time it occurs.

    When the thoughts of all the evil in this world and how it is affecting us in the market place come into my mind, I have not yet been able to learn to be still and quiet waiting for a word from God, that would bring life and hope to the situation. Instead all to often I’ve found myself doing just the opposite and blurting out my frustrations. πŸ˜₯

    I realize too that each time this happens I am missing an opportunity to speak a blessing rather than a curse over the person I’m having the interaction with. I also know I must give account for these words one day.πŸ˜₯

    Do any of you face similar problems? I would very much covet your prayers, that whatever the root cause of this is in me would be healed and I would find deliverance from my forward speaking tounge.

    What did James say?

    β€œ5. Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth! 6. And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. 7. For every kind of beasts, and of birds, and of serpents, and of things in the sea, is tamed, and hath been tamed of mankind: 8. But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 9. Therewith bless we God, even the Father; and therewith curse we men, which are made after the similitude of God. 10. Out of the same mouth proceedeth blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not so to be.” (Jam 3:5-10, KJV)

    Sojourner replied 1 month, 1 week ago 20 Members · 37 Replies
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  • Squeeze

    October 31, 2022 at 4:00 pm

    SO done with all that. I have had quite my fill, and will not coddle anymore.

  • BentNeedle

    October 31, 2022 at 4:06 pm

    “That didn’t placate her as she ran to get a manager following me to the check out line.”

    Sorry about your “Karen” encounter. The general public is unhinged these days and most likely this person hadn’t given a thought as to how tracking apps work nor would care how their info is being sold to the highest bidder. It’s rather difficult to avoid these corporate monsters but I started with a boycott list that includes Amazon, everyone’s affiliate regardless of their unfair marketplace practices.

    Kudos to the OP for critical thinking skills but next time remember that you are a minority in a sea of brainwashed zombies. Shaking one’s head or a maniacal laugh would suffice. In fact, if people think you’re crazy they tend to keep their distance which is to your advantage!

    • Sojourner

      October 31, 2022 at 4:15 pm

      HmmmπŸ€” Thanks for sharing an intresting concept. “Awash in a sea of zombies. ”

      It’s looking more and more like whoever is going to be aware already is and that very few are left behind to be awakened. If any?πŸ˜₯

      That’s a sad thought indeed, especially for followers of the Way. To realize the time of Grace is coming to an end very rapidly, if not there already.

      There is a time spoken of in prophetic scripture when the admonition is, “Let those that be filthy be filthy still & let those who be righteous be righteous still.”

      This could well be that prophecy being fulfilled before our eyes?πŸ€”

      • BentNeedle

        October 31, 2022 at 4:44 pm

        Let God sort them out. I no longer donate my handmade things to random charities since we became overrun with the freesh!tcrowd. I’m very picky these days regarding who gets my time and materials and maybe that is being hard-hearted and tribal but it seems the gene pool is in need of chlorine. Happens every 12,500 years or so I hear.

      • Sojourner

        October 31, 2022 at 5:54 pm

        I’ve never believed in giving any help other than a sandwich or something small to those we don’t know.

        The 5 wise virgins won’t be giving any of their oil to the 5 foolish.

        The important thing is to be led by His Spirit in all we do and say. Whether it’s something physical or a piece of eternal bread. πŸ˜ŽπŸ‘Œ

  • OKgirl

    November 1, 2022 at 3:07 am

    I would write a letter to corporate. She was definitely in the wrong and sounds like she was harrasing you and using her managers pity as a weapon.

  • Stoutlander

    November 1, 2022 at 9:51 am

    Not being snarky, but do you need a cell phone? It is easy for most of us to justify things in our minds, blurring the difference between need and want. We all do it at some time or another. For most folks cell phones are something used out of convenience and I get it.

    The point being that if you decide that you don’t need a cell phone, you won’t care about apps. You realize that the money you haven’t spent on a phone is more than an app will ever save you. The way that the economy is going, I’d be willing to bet that many people will be going without their cell phones soon anyway (whether they want to or not).

    I asked myself that question over a decade ago. I got rid of it and don’t miss it. Two years ago I did the same with my dish tv. I’d watch the news, get ticked off, and finally asked myself why was I doing this to myself every day? The inconveniences I thought I would suffer from getting rid of my cell and dish tv never happened. (Full disclaimer, my wife has a cell phone).

    We unknowingly put ourselves into many situations because of the choices we make. Some people are very aware of this and take great advantage of it. If you find that you honestly don’t need a cell, think about getting rid of it. You might be happier without one. Either way, best of luck to you.

  • CD_Gray

    November 1, 2022 at 11:54 am

    Did you ever play that game (I think it was called Minesweeper) that used to come pre-installed on most computers? Initiating an interaction with random people is much like that these days. A sea of unknowns, some helpful, most useless, and a few will explode if you interact with them.

    If the emotional and/or psychological instability of strangers impacts you to this degree, I’d recommend not initiating conversation with random people.

    To answer the question that you tried to ask the store clerk, no it isn’t discrimination. Businesses sell data, and pass on a small percentage of the profits from those sales to the customers who provide that data in form of “savings.” Some customers choose not to provide said data, and are therefore not eligible for that compensation. Social media platforms like FB are not free, the price is consent to the terms and conditions which outline what you are agreeing to allow them to collect in exchange for access to the platform and with whom what they collect will be “shared.”

  • AlphaDelta

    November 1, 2022 at 11:58 am

    Sojourner, You did absolutely nothing wrong. You had no way of knowing that employee was unhinged. You should call the corporate offices and complain. In another life I was a store manager. He/she was the screw up here. Their job was to make sure you were taken care of and then comfort their problem employee. I could rant more, but I won’t. D

  • SoilToSoulMS

    November 1, 2022 at 12:39 pm

    So many good responses here. I don’t think OP did anything wrong. I would’ve been one to respond to their comment wholeheartedly and we could’ve had a conversation about it. It really is hard to say what kind of response we will get when casually starting conversation/commenting regarding things like that.

  • Sojourner

    November 1, 2022 at 1:42 pm

    Thanks for everyone’s responses. My main take away from this experience is, At this point in time it seems useless to try and stimulate anyone’s thought process.

    You either get it or you don’t, your in or your out, You either see and comprehend or your blind by choice.

    It’s not my job to get anyone to wake up and smell the coffee!

    If they have the covers pulled up over their head sond asleep leave them alone.

    My 2nd take away from this experience is I don’t need to put my stick in the poop and stir the stink for my amusement. It already is just like that dead skunk in the middle of the road, stinking to high heaven! I have no ability of my own to restore anyone’s lost since of smell…

    Let them be!

  • Summerhat-n-Chicks

    November 1, 2022 at 1:58 pm

    Wow, I can so relate, lost friends over my blabber mouth and I pray every night for the discernment to know when to speak or hold my horses. But, nevertheless, the manager should have tried to diffuse the situation, but that one may have been a snowflake just as much. That said, I don’t go for those apps either, If they want to give us a couple of cents off, then give ’em, if not, don’t even bother and I said this actually many times at the register when they ask me for the app. Most are just quiet or look at me in bewilderment and sometimes I actually still get the discount. Like it was said before, people are becoming more and more on the edge these days and it just may better to keep to ourselves.

  • JesusIsOurSaviour

    November 1, 2022 at 2:04 pm

    Not your fault. Your question was perfectly reasonable, respectfully asked and honest. I most likely would have asked the same question. If people can’t handle that, it’s ON THEM. It’s SPIRITUAL WARFARE MUCH DEEPER THAN THE PHYSICAL. You are not responsible for anything someone else has been through. Period. Honestly that person needs to be rebuked for such fowl behavior. In the name of Jesus, AMEN! If you are not suffering persecution for righteousness sake as God says, then you can worry. Trust Him. Read His Word. It’s all you’ll ever need. No worries when you are saved by the Almighty!!!!!!!!!! πŸ’Œ

  • Ms.Y

    November 2, 2022 at 2:20 am

    Interesting story… not surprising though. I’m a nurse in a large hospital, so imagine the amount of unhinged I have to deal with on daily basis))) it’s getting worse every year.

    • Sojourner

      January 19, 2023 at 8:46 pm

      Thanks for putting up with all you must have to. But honestly how much longer will it be worth it.

      I’ve told my friends I’d rather live in peace under a bridge than in a nice house if I have to put up with bs like this.

      To the woods freemen! πŸ˜‰

      • Ms.Y

        February 14, 2023 at 7:39 pm

        Somebody has to do the dirty work, right? Because I didn’t get the jab, I was ready to lose my job of many years and my career altogether. They figured it would be too hard to replace me and decided to keep, for now. I would be perfectly content living in the middle of nowhere. Just throw me a bag different seeds, a few chickens and a couple of milking goats and I will survive. Not even kidding. I’m not originally from US. Where I came from, survival is a way of life.

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  • COT1TK

    November 2, 2022 at 2:37 am

    Thank you for sharing! I am a truth seeker as well an appreciate your vulnerability with your thoughts. I have nothing to offer just thankful you shared and can relate…

    • Sojourner

      January 19, 2023 at 8:47 pm

      It’s good to know your not alone and others can relate. Thanks for saying so.πŸ‘πŸ˜Š

  • CarolinaCarefree

    November 2, 2022 at 1:34 pm

    As to your story, I too, can open mouth and insert foot. But in this instance, I believe you were genuine with your question. The melt down came from them. And if we are not careful, we look the same way to them if we melt down for the opposite view. I think you handle.yourself well.with the apology. Enough with that issue or I’ll beat myself up too much. Like I said I can relate.

    As to hearing the still.small.voice,, sometimes that voice is the scream of others, it appears that you are learning a lot through this and so He is still.speaking and teaching. Here’s something I’ve had to learn over the years and He told.us. God’s ways are not ours and our ways are not His. I learned not to hold.on to things that have happened (other than to remember not to do those things again.) But instead ask, God what are You trying to teach me. It may be that God is using you to pray for that person, not for you but that He is trying to reach them. So each time this comes to mind pray for that person, even if you don’t know their name, God does. Even if you don’t know what’s happening, God does. After all, the old saying be careful what you pray for you might get it is true. If you pray for patience, ask yourself how would He give that to me? The answer is by using it. I know, I prayed for patience and God gave me three kids.

    All that said, don’t beat yourself up over things out of your control. God is still on the His thrown and still in control.

    May God richly bless you with His grace and mercy,, while He teaches you wonderful things about Him.

    • Sojourner

      November 2, 2022 at 1:50 pm

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I hear ya loud and clear. No condemnation, take and use what we are learning from each experience!

      Blessings to you and yours…

  • NicoleSauce

    November 2, 2022 at 2:53 pm

    You did nothing wrong. In a normal society, we can engage in small talk and commenting on how a discount is set up is not out of line. It is also not exactly reasonable as a victim of rape to expect no men will ever speak to you again. I feel for her mental state and hope she find peace.

    I am so sorry this happened to you and hope you are able to put the experience behind you. FWIW – I find forgiveness helps me move on more quickly and that means forgiving yourself as well as the person who flipped out.

    • Sojourner

      November 2, 2022 at 3:10 pm

      Thanks, I agree forgiveness all the way around!

  • AiNt-RiTe-Acres

    November 2, 2022 at 3:54 pm

    I didn’t see where you were out of line in anyway. If anything you were overly kind to her overreaction. I’m not so sure I could’ve been as kind as I likely would’ve insisted that I asked an innocent question and never assaulted anyone verbally or otherwise.

    What happened to the young lady prior is tragic. As a veteran advocate I’ve spent many hours on the phone with sexual assault survivors. It’s a brutal horrific assault on the mind as much if not more than on the body.

    We cannot help how others may or may not react to our words. A few years ago simply saying “you look nice today” suddenly became sexual harassment. Now simply saying “nice day isn’t it” can cause a full mental melt down with folks. Seriously… if you say something like “it’s a beautiful day” around the wrong person you’ll see a meltdown and tantrum all about climate change, right wingers destroying the planet and people’s rights …. so forth and so on. Meanwhile your independent, libertarian or non political a$$ is standing their trying to decipher the riddle of how you accidentally broke the being in front of you. When you were a child a swift smack to the back of the head resulted in a reset. Unfortunately you can’t do that to strangers and if you could I’m afraid their programming is off skewed it would only reset back to the “offense”.

    If it helps with the soul then forgive that young girl who is obviously a victim of a horrible crime and our current climate. I also say a prayer for her as I likely will but more importantly forgive yourself for being normal. The real normal and not this “new normal” crap. Lastly please know that all of us here forgive you.. so again.. forgive yourself because that’s where it matters most.

    • Sojourner

      November 2, 2022 at 4:20 pm

      Right on😎✌

      I’m a creature of extremes and that’s ok, That’s how Papa made me. Seems l either care to much, or just turn it off and don’t give a damn. So, learning a balance being led by the good shepherd rather than my emotions is what I’m in class for presently.

      I got no condemnation, just learning to be more aware when I’m in emotional situations, whether my own or someone else’s.

      He is sharpening and balancing each of us, so at the appropriate time we will fly true and straight to the target and split it right down the middle to it’s core.

      A wise man once told me after 50 years of marriage. “Son, you got to pick your fights, try to avoid all the trivial things, cause time will come you will have to fight for something worth fighting for.” That’s when it will really matter.

      A student who is learning…

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