[SilverLining]

Yes, time is a huge factor in our aloneness. I feel like if it were truly important to us to find a companion, a help mate if you will, that we would invest more time into seeking out that someone special but what gets sacrificed in the meantime?

I think we need to be honest with ourselves on what we are actually looking for in a companion too. Not just someone who can cook, clean, build a (fill in the blanks) but can carry a conversation, challenge us to be a better person, and continue to grow with in our older years. This gets hard because, we get set in our ways especially the longer we are alone.

I had a husband once who said, “[he] did not need me.” This was so hurtful to me at the time because I’m a caregiver by nature and I needed to be needed. The thing I missed was that he “wanted” me otherwise he wouldn’t have been there. Well, hurt turned into loneliness, that turned into depression that resulted in a divorce.

Sometimes, we get in our own way…unable to take a step back and evaluate the magnitude or miniscule of the situation before spewing words of “more hurt” which leads to more aloneness.